I was speaking to my friend, Gita the other day. She’s in the US temporarily with her husband, Dipak and her 5 year old son, Gaurav. She’s the only daughter of her parents who are now in their early seventies. They had Gita very late; more than a decade after their marriage.
Dipak is his parents’ only son. He lost his dad few years back.
Gita and Dipak have bought an apartment here in their hometown…. a spacious 3 BHK. She insisted on buying a bigger place which could house her family, her mother-in-law and also her parents.
Now, the question arises, are three families too much of a crowd under one roof? Or are they not? Traditionally, a husband looks after his parents when they are old. And a daughter-in-law lends him her precious helping hand. They all stay together in one house.
In Gita’s case, her parents are old and she’s the only one they have. Her point is, why cant she have her parents also stay in the same house as her mother-in-law; so that she looks after them too.
In our group, this became a topic of discussion, rather debate – is it right to have the parents and in-laws stay together? Or is it not?
Can so many people from different relations really co-exist? In today’s world where husband and wife are considered to be at par, a husband still gets to live with his parents and a wife still has to leave her parents. Sometimes there’s a relief if she has a brother – he might look after the parents. Not guaranteed though…
But what if the girl is the only child of her parents? Are there too many options to be considered? Like, keeping them in a seperate house and paying them visits or having a full-time nanny to look after them. The question is, how much of it is practically possible? Specially, when the girl is a home-maker. Will her husband readily pay for the maintenance of her parents?
After marriage, how frequently does a girl really visit her parents? After becoming a mother, the frequency reduces all the more. What happens to her old parents then? Are they to be left alone by themselves?
In the brand new age, if women are considered to be equal to men, why can’t the stone-age traditions also change? If not completely, its definitely possible to make a few amendments, isn’t it?
Is Gita’s approach an apt solution to these problems? Why not? I really appreciate Dipak for going all out and supporting her decision. Right now, she’s happy in the US and both her sets of parents are happy in their own world. But when she shifts back home in her new 3bhk abode to stay with her 3 parents, will they all enjoy the same happiness together?
Only time will tell….
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My humble little blog has its own story to tell… my story… I’m gregarious being, vagabond at heart and have a monstrous appetite for food. I used to be a Human Resource professional until few years ago. To be among, with and for people was the reason I’d chosen this field.
Being in HR, I could only accomplish the ‘people’ part. I still yearned to be in those places I saw on TV and travel magazines and craved to eat all kinds of food that lulls you into coma. I didn’t want to be just a spectator anymore. I wanted to be in those pictures.
Luck smiled at me and I fell sick with an awful heart, lungs and liver disorder. Family said stay home. Rest.
Rest? Were they crazy? I grabbed this opportunity and quit my job; to pursue my passion – people, places and food.
Being on my own gave me lot of spare time for all the three.
I’m not a professional cook, but I’m mighty passionate about cooking. Although Indian, BitesandPlaces does not restrict itself to just the dishes of my country, which are toothsome beyond doubt. I’ve also tried to put together a bunch of mouth-watering and eye-pleasing recipes scattered from all parts the world. A lot of them are a tribute to my mum’s kitchen, the ones I grew up with. Few of them are a result of my experimentation and few others, borrowed from my generous friends 🙂
I religiously follow Andrew Zimmern’s favorite quote – what looks good to your eyes, EAT IT!! After all food is something that follows no boundaries, isn’t it.
Travel, I believe, is about exploring new places, meeting new people, building new relations, soaking in their culture, gorging on their cuisines, discovering their stories and of course, capturing all of these in my teeny-tiny camera.
After having been there and done that, I was inspired to share my travelogues with you, encourage you to travel and in some way find a bit of your happiness through me.
Thus BitesandPlaces was born!
Life’s a journey and people, places and food are all a part of it. So, come along with me and eat your way through this journey called Life…
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